Six Attributes of Self-Compassion
Anxiety, Self-compassion, Perfectionism Dr. Marnie Rogers-de Jong Anxiety, Self-compassion, Perfectionism Dr. Marnie Rogers-de Jong

Six Attributes of Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is a powerful antidote to the self-criticism that often comes with perfectionism.

Key to self compassion is being able to identify and meet your own needs at a given time. And staying flexible, since these needs can change over time, even from day to day.

In this article, I explore two domains and six attributes of self-compassion.

Which ways are going well for you? And what areas would you like to improve?

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10 Strategies for Working Through Relationship Anxiety
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10 Strategies for Working Through Relationship Anxiety

Do you worry about your relationship with your partner, even when things seem perfectly fine?

Like questioning whether they're the right person for you? Fearing they’re going to betray you in some way? Or overanalyzing every single conversation and text?

It's normal to have fears or doubts about your relationships sometimes, even in the healthiest partnerships. But relationship anxiety takes these fears to another level.

Learn what relationship anxiety is and get tips for working through it.

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Perfectionism and Mental Health
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Perfectionism and Mental Health

Research on perfectionism and mental health definitely raises some red flags.

Perfectionism has been linked with increased rates of mental health concerns, particularly anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and eating disorders.

These studies are correlational, which means that we can’t say for sure that perfectionism directly causes mental health issues. But perfectionism has been identified as a potential risk factor.

In this article, I explore how perfectionism overlaps with several mental health concerns.

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Are You Sure? Seeking Reassurance to Cope with Anxiety
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Are You Sure? Seeking Reassurance to Cope with Anxiety

People who experience anxiety often seek reassurance from themselves and others.

Are we okay?

Can we really make it on time?

Are you sure the door was locked?

Let me just Google these symptoms to make sure it’s nothing serious

But seeking reassurance can trap us in a vicious cycle, giving us short-term relief but feeding into anxiety over time.

In this article, I dive into reassurance-seeking behaviours, so you can recognize when they’re happening, why they’re a problem, and what to do instead.

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Self-Compassion: How to Give Yourself a Break
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Self-Compassion: How to Give Yourself a Break

Whenever I mention self-compassion, people cringe. They visibly, physically cringe.

Clearly, there’s something about self-compassion that makes us uncomfortable!

Though self-criticism may be more familiar to us, it can have toxic effects on our well-being.

Learn more about the negative effects of self-criticism and how to get started with self-compassion.

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5 Tips for Taming Driving Anxiety
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5 Tips for Taming Driving Anxiety

Feeling overwhelmed when you get behind the wheel?

Driving is a huge source of anxiety for many people.

Driving anxiety can range from mild nervousness to intense panic, occurring before, during, or after driving.

In this article, I offer 5 concrete tips for getting more comfortable on the road.

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Five Styles of Perfectionism and One Big Debate
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Five Styles of Perfectionism and One Big Debate

Self-awareness is key when it comes to resisting perfectionism. We need to be able to notice and label perfectionism in action before we can step outside it.

In this article, I cover two approaches to defining perfectionism, adding up to five different styles.

What’s your style of perfectionism?

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Anxious about Conflict? How to Have Difficult Conversations
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Anxious about Conflict? How to Have Difficult Conversations

Conflict can be uncomfortable. Perhaps you notice your heart racing or your palms sweating at just the THOUGHT of confronting an issue you’re dealing with at home or work.

In this article, I explore why conflict can be so challenging and offer tips on how to get more comfortable addressing problems as they happen.

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Feeling Tired but Wired? 7 Tips for Improving Sleep with Anxiety
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Feeling Tired but Wired? 7 Tips for Improving Sleep with Anxiety

Getting good quality sleep is crucial for our mental and physical health.

Unfortunately, many people who experience anxiety and perfectionism have problems sleeping. These problems can include taking a long time to fall asleep, waking up during the night, having frequent vivid dreams, or feeling less-than-rested in the morning.

Keep reading for 7 tips on reclaiming sleep from anxiety.

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Hustle & Grind: How Productivity Can Take Over Self-Care
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Hustle & Grind: How Productivity Can Take Over Self-Care

We put a ton of emphasis on hard work and productivity in our society. Many of us are taught from a young age that our self-worth is tied to what we achieve. To how successful we are, in the eyes of those around us. 

Call it the cult of productivity, call it hustle culture, or call it capitalism. Whatever label we use, this emphasis on achievement may be negatively impacting our well-being. 

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Sick with Worry: Health Anxiety
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Sick with Worry: Health Anxiety

Health anxiety involves having overwhelming fears about your physical health despite experiencing few if any concrete symptoms.

While many people worry about their health sometimes, with health anxiety, these worries are frequent, persistent, and distressing.

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What to Expect When You’re Starting Counselling
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What to Expect When You’re Starting Counselling

Going to your first counselling session can be intimidating. Especially when you don’t know what to expect.

In this article, I’ll talk about how to get started in counselling, to give you a sense of what’s ahead.

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National Indigenous Peoples Day
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National Indigenous Peoples Day

To celebrate National Indigenous Peoples Day, I’ve collected a few helpful resources for learning more about Indigenous cultures, practices, and perspectives.

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What’s the Difference between a Psychologist and a Psychiatrist?
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What’s the Difference between a Psychologist and a Psychiatrist?

Here’s one question I’m asked all the time: What’s the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist?

Both professions are focused on helping people improve their well-being, but coming at it from different angles and with some unique skills.

Hopefully this article helps to explain our unique roles in mental health care. 

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Maternal Mental Health: Post-Partum Anxiety
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Maternal Mental Health: Post-Partum Anxiety

Welcoming a new baby into the world is often a time of joy and excitement. It can also be a time of significant stress and anxiety.

It’s understandable to worry after having a baby. Parenting comes with a lot of responsibility! And there are more messages than ever about how moms “should” best care for their children. It can be overwhelming to know what to do and who to trust.

For some women, these normal fears and worries develop into something more serious.

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How to Build Resilience and Grow through Hard Times
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How to Build Resilience and Grow through Hard Times

Resilience involves coping well with challenging situations. People show resilience when they find ways to recover from setbacks. When they adapt to whatever challenges come up and keep going even through hard times.

Beyond just getting by, being resilient means finding ways to grow through adversity.

Resilience is a skill that we can build and nurture over time. Here are 7 ways to promote resilience in your life.

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